The other day I saw in passing a picture, or sign, or status, something, that mentioned a line about "do life with your children" and it's been in my head ever since. I tried to track down where I saw that, but couldn't. It's been rolling around in my mind the past few days and my thoughts have been similar to: "Do life with your kids? Isn't that what a parent does from the time their child emerges into their world?" I mean, we're responsible for them and we're with them most of the time if they aren't in school. Every. Day.
So, through my days of musing, I've started to develop bionic ears becoming super attentive to what Nickels has been sharing with me. I've become super sensitive to how I'm speaking to her and ultra aware of the quality of time we have together. Mentally picking apart the times I get short with her and sound snippy and other times where I might not be fully listening and then snap back to reality when I realize she's saying, "Mama...Mama...," over and over again to get my attention. It's easier to get caught up in over analyzing where I'm lacking as a parent than to see all the love I'm pouring over her and the good I'm instilling in her.
Last night, since it was chilly outside, I decided we were going to get a fire going and do her homework together by the fire. When we were almost done with her homework that's when it dawned on me: "This is doing life with my little one!" It's moments like this that define "do life with your children" to me. It's moments like this that will build her trust in me and create in her a desire to be close throughout life. It's moments like this that will make her want to go grab a coffee with me and share with me what is going on in her world. It's as simple as that. Creating a warm fire (a favorite of the Librizzi Girls) and making a pallet on the floor and getting cozy together in front of it. (AND we got her homework done at the same time! #winning ) :O)
{Our pallet by the fire last night, doing her homework together}
Keep things simple. Relax some and enjoy the journey with your little one(s). You always have control of simplifying as you move ahead on your journey. Don't beat yourself up and over analyze how you do things, or what you don't do, or what you say or don't say. Breathe with a sigh of relief that you can keep things simple...it's your face time, your loving words, and cuddles that mean the most to your little ones in their young years. Simple. Flying a kite, reading a book, painting a pumpkin, sitting by a fire, coloring, etc.
Turn a new leaf and step forward with a simpler, fresh perspective. It'll make both you and your little one(s) smile :O)
{The day we flew a kite together. I love her smile}
Sending out lots of Light and Laughter,
~Cassie
